Well okay then.
Last week at the mall he noted a mannequin wearing a bikini. He said that if he saw one of his friend's wearing that bikini that he would have to kiss her. He then saw a mannequin wearing some lingerie and he liked that too. He thought the lingerie would look really good on a friend of mine and that my friend would look even better naked. I was a bit shocked at the thought. I told him that he would never see her naked and he thought that maybe he would be in her home sometime and just happen to see her naked. Not going to happen Mr. Hayden. Sorry.
Is this normal?!?
I swear that he is a sweet kid, but these thoughts and notions are a bit concerning.
I'm hoping that he just finds the body beautiful, which I think is a great thing. There really is no sexual undertone to any of his comments or feelings (at least I don't think there is).
He does still see me naked sometimes which I think is appropriate and okay (but I could be wrong). He also sees Harper naked - which I also think is alright (but I could be wrong).
My plan was to "allow" him to see me and Harper naked until he feels uncomfortable with it. At that point I figured I would cease being naked around him and make it a point to be covered up in his presence.
I don't want to make this into a big deal and I don't want him to feel bad about the female (or male) body. I want him to feel that people and bodies are beautiful and not something to be ashamed of.
I don't have kiddos, but I feel like this is normal from what I've seen of my friends' kids. They have ALL at one point or another been obsessed with my breasts!
ReplyDeleteI don't know if it's ok to still let him see you naked. He's a pretty sexual beast. (does he still play with himself often?).
ReplyDeleteI'm dreading these issues. My biggest delima now is weather to feed him or not.
-Mary
Well....I started dealing with this with my 5 year old about 1 and 1/2 years ago! Let me tell you- i have 3 boys....and this ONLY happened with the last child! He threw a FIT when I wouldn't change clothes in front of him in the bathroom - i made him leave the room. So....ever since then, I've made it a point to be completely covered when he is in the room, I don't change clothes in front of him, etc. He LOVES when I get magazines/catalogs in the mail with bikini or bra models on it. I don't know what to tell you - I've tried NOT to make a big deal of it, but I've also decided to be completely clothed in front of him. LOL!
ReplyDeleteGood luck!!