I am now nearly 20 weeks pregnant - I'll officially be 20 weeks on Monday.
When I was pregnant with Hayden, I started feeling him move at around 19 weeks. I started feeling this baby move around 17 weeks. Nothing big - just some flutters and subtle movement. This past week though I haven't felt anything. No movement at all.
Everyday I wait and try and feel something, but by the end of the day I haven't felt anything. I am so worried that something is wrong (and not just wrong - but that the baby is no longer alive).
I know I am being a little paranoid. I know that more than likely everything is perfectly fine. But as the week passes and I continue to feel nothing, my level of anxiety increases.
Our "big ultrasound" is this upcoming Monday and I am scared that my worst fear will be confirmed and that this baby won't have a heartbeat (again, I know this seems dramatic). If I could just feel something, I would get that reassurance that I need - but so far, nothing.
I finally confessed these feelings and worries to Randy this morning, and he told me not to think like that - to be positive, because everything is okay. But what if it isn't?
He called me later and told me to just try and relax and that he loves me. He is trying to be really supportive, but at the same time I am just really scared.
((((((((((Melissa))))))))))
ReplyDeleteCan you buy one of those heart beat monitor things? They have them at Wally World now I think? It probably won't be the last time you're worried - it would be a good investment if it calmed you. Maybe Jaime or someone knows someone who has one you can even borrow?
My OB got me in quick if I was having problems... do you have a nurse line? Can you call and ask if they can just check the heart rate because you're really worried and don't want to be super stressed over the weekend?
You know the odds are that your baby is okay, but being pregnant is scary - it's a whole new level of responsibility.
I definitely am praying for you and sending tons of positive vibes your way.
I know this exact feeling! With my daughter I felt her then didn't, felt her then didn't. Going into the big ultrasound I was for sure she wasn't alive anymore! But I was WAY wrong! She was there kicking and moving but I couldn't feel her at all. She was faced a funny way and my doc said that I wouldn't feel her until she changed positions! About a week or so later she did just that!!!! I know it is scary but just know that everything is probably ok! Drink or eat something high is sugar, like OJ, to see if you can get that little thing moving!!!!! Praying for your peace about this!!!
ReplyDeleteI absolutely remember feeling that way when I was pregnant. Especially right around 20 weeks, when I had felt SOME movement, but nothing consistent. How close are you to your doctor? Even your GP? I'm almost positive that a nurse would squeeze you in to let you hear the heartbeat. Don't feel like you have to wait until Monday. That makes for a looong weekend. But, do try to relax too. Easier said than done, I know. I will keep y'all in my thoughts and prayers. :)
ReplyDeleteMelissa: I was the same way with Ethan. I thought I lost him 6 weeks into the pregnancy, and had to go for testing every other day and finally an ultrasound. I think it set me up to worry for the rest of the pregnancy. Have you tried drinking orange juice and laying really still? I used to do that to see if I could feel any flutters at all. I was so paranoid about it.
ReplyDeleteI'm with Jenn; I bet you could get squeezed in to hear the heartbeat. I'll be thinking of you and hoping for the best!
Girl, I was feeling the same way until this week when I heard the heartbeat and had the ultrasound. I hadn't been feeling the baby move yet either. It will all be ok!!
ReplyDeleteI would definitely call your dr's office and get in today...don't put yourself through a weekend of worry and stress.
ReplyDeleteHave you tried the old wives tale and drank a big glass of OJ?
It used to work when I was pregnant with my first...I was worried all the time because I bled the entire pregnancy....
try to find an answer today....the stress isn't good for you.
Thinking about ya.
this happened to me all the time throughout my pregnancies and i know this is the last thing you want to hear but it's more than likely going to be A OK. Babies sleep alot in there:) Everything will be okay mama:) Let me know how that ultrasound goes! xoxo
ReplyDeleteI went in recenctly for a heartbeat check just because. They will do it and you should. My nurse said they don't recommend home monitors. They cause more paranoia than they help. She did say i could pop in anytime to talk and check.
ReplyDeleteGood luck Melissa.
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HUGS to you Melissa -- I know it's normal to be scared - I always thought these things through all my pregnancies.
ReplyDeleteHang in there and keep us posted!
Thinking of you!
ReplyDeleteMaybe your placenta is just in front? That was the case with my son and it took forever to really feel him move.
I agree about calling the dr. just to see if you can pop in and not go through the weekend with the worry and stress.
Thinking of you!
I am thinking of you and I pray you feel your sweet one move like crazy this weekend.
ReplyDeleteThis whole pregnancy thing makes me anxious! Anyway, I know exactly how you feel..I'm sure everything is fine and Monday, can't come soon enough..I'm sure!
ReplyDeleteHopefully you'll feel something today..I say drink the OJ!
Maybe it's a girl and she's already giving you a hard time..;-)
Pregnancy fears are the worst! Men don't always get it, no matter how wonderful they are!
ReplyDeleteA nurse will probably tell you to drink some orange juice and lay on your left side.If your placenta implanted in the front of the uterus, you will have a very hard time feeling kicks or any movements too.
I'm keeping you in my prayers regardless!
((HUGS))
ReplyDeleteI know how you feel. If it is really bothering you call your dr. I was reading about when it's time to feel the baby because I have been worried about that. TheBump.com said it starts anywhere between 16 and 20 weeks and it's not constant. It is definitely not constant for me and I worry about not feeling the little thing at times but I try to assure myself that it is because it is still on the early side.
I am excited that your comprehensive ultrasound is coming up so soon!
Thinking about you, and praying for a fabulous appointment on Monday!!
ReplyDeleteEVERYTHING WILL BE FINE I AM SURE YOU ARE SCARED AND WORRIED MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU!! I AM GOING TO CALL YOU RIGHT NOW AND HOPE THAT SHE HAS MOVED FOR YOU!!! THE COOKIES LOOK GREAT AND I GUESS HAYDEN HAD A GOOD TIME MAKING THEM THAT IS SUCH A CUTE OUTFIT HE HAD ON. LOOKS LIKE SANTA
ReplyDeleteI agree with Steph. I've heard that if the placenta is in front, it's harder to feel the baby.
ReplyDeleteI'll be thinking of you and sending positive thoughts all day Monday.
i really hope everything is great today at your ultrasound.
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