Recently, Hayden hasn't been quite as cheerful as he usually is. To be honest, he's been rather moody and sullen. I'm not sure exactly why, but he definitely has some negative energy happening as of late.
I asked him about it and he seemed to recognize that he was a little grumpier lately. I asked him if he knew why and at first, he said that he wasn't sure. After thinking about it, he noted that he doesn't like not always getting to do what he wants to do and having to do so much (meaning pick up after himself and get himself ready for school and whatnot). He also said that he doesn't like having to do schoolwork (reading and math).
From my observations, it seems like he just wants to watch TV and play with the iPad and if he has to do other things, then he is "suffering." He doesn't use that word, but that is how he acts. If he has to do any "work" or anything that he doesn't want to do then he is rather miserable and whiny: lots of complaints and push-back.
I have to admit that it wears on me. I don't want him to be unhappy or sad, but I do expect him to help out around the house and to do his schoolwork. I'm trying to be more positive about things and nag him less - which I admit aren't exactly helpful (and would be beneficial to everyone - including me).
I also think he needs and wants more attention - especially more focused attention from me and Randy. When he was younger - before he started school - we had "Happy Hayden Days." These monthly "days" consisted of Hayden getting to plan the day and us doing whatever he wanted for that day. We've decided to reinstitute the "Happy Hayden Days" and also start "Happy Harper Days." These days are separate from one another and siblings can be included at the discretion of the child whose day it is.
Hopefully these actions will help to bring Happy Hayden back to the forefront. I want his fun, chipper self to come back. Grumpy Hayden needs to go away. He is not very enjoyable - to say the least!